This accidental country girl planted her very first garden this year. Two days ago in fact! My Dad was going to teach me, but God saw fit to have him in the hospital for a stem cell transplant instead, and God has been so faithful yet it has been another season of hard questions and God’s faithfulness. I had no idea what I was doing and as I planted the seeds of corn, cucumbers, tomatoes, onions, squash, and pumpkin my heart filled with anticipation for the weeks I’d see the first sign of new life. Then this morning my Mother in-love who lives next door shared with me that she had seen birds snatching some seeds from a few of the rows. Immediately I asked myself, “is this even worth it? What if my garden doesn’t bear fruit (or vegetables haha) and all of my effort was for nothing?
I then started to think about Motherhood and how it can be much like gardening. We tend to sow and weed with the expectation and anticipation for the day we will see real fruit and evidence in their life. But what if we don’t? What if the results we desire never come when we think they should? We truly aren’t promised good parenting in = good kids out, so why in the world are we doing what we are doing?
I was thinking about the verse in Matthew 10:37b anyone who loves their son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me. Do we love our children more than we fear God? How does that look in our parenting? Do we make choices and parent based on the desired outcome, to be the favorite, out of laziness, or true conviction from the Lord? There is a Proverb in scripture that reminds us to train up a child in the way he should go for when he is old he will not depart from it. And though it is likely that if we train them up in the way that they won’t depart, but it isn’t a promise that they won’t.
I keep thinking about the harvest, but really all God’s
asking me to do is to sow in faith today.
We have a hope with in us and the Holy Spirit helper to lead and guide us. We are not responsible for the end result, we are responsible for what we as parents are called to minute by minute and day by day.
How we parent and sow into our children’s hearts should absolutely be shaped by the gospel. Our little ones are sinners in need of Jesus and we are sinners saved by grace trying to show them who God is. I was thinking about how Paul charged and encouraged Timothy in 1 Timothy 4.
(vrs. 6-7) Be trained in the words of the faith and of the good doctrine…train yourself for godliness. We must be proactive as we prepare for and train our children with the word. How can we hide God’s words in their hearts when we don’t have them in our hearts? How can we share the good news of salvation and teach them what to put off and put on when we don’t even know?
(vrs. 11-12) Command and teach these things, Let no one despise you for your youth, but set the believers an example in speech, in conduct, in love, in faith, in purity. It’s amazing that it’s in our youth that we are usually blessed with the gift of children who are solely dependent on us for everything and we are just sorting through life ourselves. Our sweet little ones are watching our every move whether we like it or not. What are we teaching them verbally, in our conduct, in how we love one another and others, in faith and in purity?
(vrs. 13-14) Until I come, devote yourself to the public reading of Scripture, to exhortation, to teaching. Do not neglect the gift you have. Are we reading scripture out loud so that it can settle into the little hearts and minds that God has entrusted us with? 2 Timothy 3:16-27 says All Scripture is breathed out by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, and for training in righteousness, that the man of God maybe complete, equipped for every good work. As we read the word out loud not only do our kids benefit, learn and receive correction but God is faithful to use those times to work in our hearts as well. We learn and grow as they learn and grow! It’s part of how God equips us for THIS ministry of Motherhood, and it is your calling if you have children! Use your gifts in your home to glorify our God as you minister, witness, and serve your family.
(vrs. 15-16) Practice these things, immerse yourself in them, so that all may see your progress. Keep a close watch on yourself and on the teaching. Persist in this, for by so doing you will save both yourself and your hearers. Jump in there Mama, immerse yourself in the good work God has called you to. You WILL see progress and others will too! Keep close watch, heart checks and motives. Persist: (verb) continue firmly or obstinately in a course of action in spite of difficulty, opposition, or failure. Persist in THIS! You never know how God is going to use your faithful seed and reseeding.
Tomorrow I plan to go out into my garden and reseed the corn the squash and some other rows of vegetables. It isn’t a waste of time to be diligent and faithful in the little things, because before long they become the big things and though we aren’t promised a full and plentiful harvest in the realm of parenthood, may we be faithful and obediently sow and resow when necessary and rest in the sovereignty of our Lord and King.
1 Timothy 4:10 For to this end (eternity) we toil and strive, because we have our hope set on the living God, who is the Savior of all people, especially of those who believe.